How to find your way out of of a crisis Part 3

Some seem to do well in times of financial crisis and others never have been as poor.  Some are devastated by forced changes in their job situation, the weight of cumulated debt, consequences of long term sickness or underfinanced retirement or old age.  Others quickly adapt or even anticipate the changing paradigms of our time and face without fear what threatens their lifestyle.

Those who thrive in times of crisis surf on the waves of opportunity and there are 7 things they keep working on, on their to-do list.  Here is Step 3

Step N° 3

It’s not those who give the advice who will also pay your bills if you don’t make it.

When I was 19 years I didn’t really know what I wanted to do with my life except I wanted to travel the world.  I lived in Canada.

My mother told me to go back to the Netherlands where I was born to meet the family.  My uncle was in market gardening; cucumbers and tomatoes.  He showed me his red-ripe tomatoes, ready to be handpicked in his glasshouses as well as several of his inventions.

Where I learned to get ualified advice at all times
Where I learned to get qualified advice at all times

And like a good American, I drooled with complements telling him how smart he was.  But in the middle of it, he interrupted me briskly.  “Shut up!  You don’t know what you are talking about.  If an expert in market gardening came here to say something nice, it would be a real compliment.  But you, just shut up!  You don’t know anything about it”!

At that moment, I felt hurt by his words.

The hurt I felt by his reaction had me miss an opportunity to become a millionaire by the time I was 25.  My uncle saw I was a hard worker and he had a proposition for me.  He would finance and have me benefit from his experience.  And I would do the work in his glass houses.  We would share the profits 50/50.  But I had no desire to work with a tyrant.

Nevertheless, I learned a very important lesson for life.  From that moment on if family or friends gave me advice about something; I always asked myself the question:                                                                                                                                                                      Do they know what they are talking about?

Do they know something about the way I’m about to undertake?

If I take their advice and it doesn’t work out, will they pay the bills?


Don’t waste any time with negative counselling coming from those around you without checking that they are qualified to do so.

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